Our past doesn't have to equal the future, right? But we kind of all do it anyway.
We kind of repeat our past over and over again because we want to fix it.
And it's...after a while, you kind of get tired of that. You're like,
"Okay. I think I'm ready to not repeat this anymore." And what you have to do is
you have to learn to isolate your past experiences from your future.
Because what happens is, let's say a bad relationship. You have so much stuff,
so much bad energy and so much toxicity kind of stored with that relationship that
when you use that as your past and pushing it onward to your future,
you're imprinting that bad relationship on all your future partners.
And you're trying to defend yourself from the trauma that you experienced with maybe
that toxic relationship by pushing away everybody. And that only disallows for
your opportunity to heal. All right? It's kind of like...right now,
I'm at Golden Gate State Park, really, really beautiful place.
Behind me, there's some water, some ducks and stuff. And imagine if we came here and
you stepped on a thorn, and you were like, "Ah, I stepped on a thorn!
Ah!" All right? The reasonable reaction would be, "Well, you stepped on a thorn.
I'm sorry." Right? Maybe walk around a little bit more. Okay. But the
unreasonable reaction, which we all do in our pasts is, "I stepped on a thorn.
I can never go outside again." That's like a toxic relationship.
"I stepped on a thorn," or, "I had a toxic relationship.
I can never have one now because all women and all men are terrible." Right?
That's the unreasonable reaction. And what you can do is you can kind of jump out of
that and say, "Well, actually, I stepped on a thorn, and maybe next time I won't,
or I probably won't next time, in fact. And I can go enjoy another place outside,"
instead of cutting yourself off from it. But that's what we tend to do,
we cut ourselves off from it. And then next time you go outside somewhere,
you're like, "Oh my God, I could step on a thorn." And you imprint that and you
already ruin your experience. And that's what we're doing constantly with our past
when we're not realizing, "Hey, I've had some bad stuff happen with people.
It doesn't mean all things are going to be bad or all people are going to be bad."
It's about cutting it separately.
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