People say the eyes are the mirror of the soul...
but, do they have something to tell us
about what goes on inside our heads?
Today I'll show you some secrets
that your eyes reveal about what you think.
So click on the like button and come on to our video!
In today's Papo Cabeça (Smart Talk)
we're going to talk about something that is little known by people,
but it is very useful when we think about body language.
They are the Eye Access Cues.
And as the name itself says,
they are signs that our eyes give
that reveal some information about what we say
or what we think.
We all have lots of ways of memorizing
the information we know.
Three of them are by:
vision, hearing, and kinesthetic,
which are body sensations such as touch, smell, and tasting.
Okay. But what's the relationship
between our memories and our eyes?
As I said before, our eyes send some signs that indicate
some information about what we say
or think, and these signs are directly related to these
three types of memory.
Every time you go through a new experience;
it can be a movie,
a class, a kind of food you've eaten recently;
you record some information.
And within this information can have:
images, sounds, tastes, smells,
physical sensations and so on.
You record a little bit of each one,
and when you try to remember, you'll think
of those features again
and get them there in your "memory bank".
But we can create and imagine sounds, images and sensations as well.
And when you create or imagine something,
you can not get it in your memory
because you are in a process of building, not of remembering.
So how do you know if the person you are talking to
is creating or remembering something?
Well, there is a theory that our brain is divided in two sides:
on the right one we have the creative part and the imagination;
and on the left one we have the logical part and the reason.
So every time you remember something,
you use the left side, because it's something concrete,
and every time you imagine something, you use the right side.
And here is where the great secret behind our eyes lives,
'cause every time we imagine something
our eyes go to the right,
and every time we remember something,
they go to the left.
And as I said in the beginnig of this video, we have visual,
auditory and kinesthetic memories.
Therefore, we can also create images, sounds
and imagine sensations. And The best.
you can also identify it through the eyes.
Every time we look up to the right,
we're creating an image. So,
when we look up to the left,
we're looking for an image in our memory.
You can practice it with your friends
by asking simple questions. For example: What is the color of your bedroom?
How would it be if it was light green? Pay attention to the person's eyes while he/she thinks about the answer.
For the sounds, we look for the sides instead of looking up. To the right to create one,
and to the left to look for one sound in our memory. You can ask questions like:
What is the sound of your alarm clock?
Have you ever thought the voice of a chicken if it spoke?
And the last one, when we look down to the left
we remember some sensation with our body, like a touch, a taste,
getting chills, and so on.
However, when we look down to the right,
we imagine how those sensations would be.
We look in the same way
when we reflect or when we are
talking to ourselves. either thinking about a situation
or imagining how it would be.
What you must remember always,
after making a questions,
is to pay attention to the person's eyes while he/she thinks about the answer.
The eye's movements are very fast!
At first, it's a little hard to notice, but you get it with time. if you prefer
you can start with just one of the three memories and pay attention just on it.
So the next time you're talking to someone,
take some time to pay attention to they're eyes
and to practice your eyes reading.
And something that will help you very much are the questions that you ask.
If you haven't seen the video about the tipes of questions
click here on the screen and go there 'cause it's still in time.
And befora we finish, I would like to know your opinion:
What would change in your live if your communication skills were better than they are today?
Give me your answer down here in the comments and share this video with your friends
to see their answer as well.
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because every week I have new videos for you!
I'm Rubens Güths and it was our today's Papo Cabeça
I see you the next video.
Bye!
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